2 under 2…
Having 2 under 2, lots of people say we are crazy, many say we are brave, some say we made the best decision ever. Was it a good decision? Is it as hard as it seems? Was it worth it? Since it would be a 10 page long thesis I decided to brake it up into a few posts outlining the positives and the negatives of having children that close together. Here are some of the reasons why we had our children so close and why we are loving it.
Lets start by saying that we consciously made the decisions to have our children that close together. Our babies are not only under 2 years apart but they are actually under 18 months apart. Sophie was born when Ava was about 16 and a half months old.
We wanted to have our children close for a few reasons.
First I wanted them to be in the same stage of development more or less, have the same interests, be into the same movies, books cartoons etc. We envisioned our babies playing together and entertaining each other, sharing toys and having same friends. We didn’t really want to drag out the ‘having small babies’ stage for too long, just get that sleep deprivation over with, rip it off like a bandaid and forget about it. It just seemed, even though obviously hard and challenging in the moment, it would be easier while we were young rather than having kids later in life.
Honestly though I LOVE their age gap, I wouldn’t want them to be any further apart! Would I want them closer together? As much as I would I seriously doubt I would make it through the first months. If you read Kate’s smallthingsblog, her boys are 13 months apart and honestly she is my inspiration. Kate, you are way too cool and you will probably never read this, but if you do, girl you RULE and you are a SUPERHERO MOM.
Was it worth it? From where I stand now, my babies being 6 months and almost 2 years of age, I would say its starting to be. I can say I wasn’t one of those people that loves being pregnant. I get extremely exhausted and winded, with nausea for the entire 9 months. Since I am a smaller built person, it literally feels like an alien has taken over my body and by the end of my second pregnancy it felt like Sophie was wearing me like a puppet. So it was nice to just get it over with fast and not have to dread it, even though it was extremely challenging being pregnant and having a 1 year old in tow (more on that later). When we had Sophie it kind of felt like we JUST had Ava so we still remembered all our tricks from when she was a baby which was nice. To be honest with you, even though Sophie was not as laid back as Ava (didn’t sleep as good, was more needy and wanted to be held all the time) for some reason it felt like a BREEZE with her compared to Ava. I think that’s because we already knew what to do and when to do it.
We sleep trained Ava and she was always a great sleeper and we did the same with Sophie, and even though she took far more work, she now sleeps great at night (most of the time) so the sleep deprivation is starting to fade a little. Now that Sophie is getting a little older and more aware, the girls are starting to play together, and guys, it is the cutest thing EVER! Ava always looks out for her smaller sister and always wants to feed her and play with her. She asks for Sophie to come into her crib and hang out with her in the morning, and is always so concerned when Sophie is crying. Sophie also ADORES Ava, she has her always ‘locked on target’, and her whole face lights up when Ava comes into her room to wake her up after her nap. I cannot wait for them to play together more and see them grow together. Those two keep me on my tows and being a mother to them is the hardest thing I’ve done in my life, but thats a story for another time.
Hope you enjoyed reading! How far apart are your kids, do you like their age gap or do you wish they were close/further apart in age?